Occupation- Director, Human Resources
If you opened your own business, what would it be? This path would depend on available
capital. If I had all of the financial resources necessary, I would like to start a consulting business
that focused on developing skills in the area of employee relations.Specifically, newer leadership
staff. Experience tells me that new supervisors and/or managers don’t typically have the
confidence, knowledge, or patience to effectively deal with situational or performance issues
within their team. I have also always loved creating spaces in or around my home that are
welcoming, yet sophisticated. Landscaping and interior design, including word working, would also
be a fulfilling future for me.
What advice would you give your younger self? I would tell my younger self to take advantage of everything that is happening now. Don’t wait until it is a memory before you appreciate that event, your appearance, career, friends, or even unpopular
circumstances that allow you to grow. I would tell myself to take time to reflect if something went opposite than planned.
Worry less about what others think and more how “it” impacts you and your goals. Don’t be in a hurry and learn to enjoy
everything around you.
Exceptional Skills- Professionally, I feel that the most self-impacting skill would be the ability to learn from situations that I had previously failed in. By failing, I mean that I did not react appropriately. By owning my mistakes and actions, I am able to change my reaction in similar situations. This does not mean that I don’t still fume internally, it means that I can allow a situation to progress positively, rather than come to a halt because I do not agree or took things personally.
Personally, and maybe to a fault, I forgive easily. I have learned that no matter how right you feel you are in a situation, the others involved may be just as passionate about their thoughts, perceptions, and actions. Instead of dwelling on what that person did or said, I talk about it, then let it go. When I hold onto anger or hurt, the only person that loses is me.
What makes you feel fulfilled? Professionally – just knowing I gave something my all. There is no better feeling than presenting your work and being totally satisfied with your effort, no matter the result.
Personally – 1. Seeing my family smile. When I am having a bad day, or am feeling unsatisfied with life, a smile or a laugh from a member of my family brings it all back into perspective. Everything I do is for them and any glimpse of happiness encourages me to “keep on, keeping on.” Life is too short to not try to find joy in simple things. I have to remind myself of this continually, but with each obstacle, it gets a little easier. 2. Being a good friend. I had made the decision in my early twenties that life was not about the numbers around you, but the value in the number. I have surrounded myself with genuine, real-life, asshole-ish at times, humans that encourage and challenge me to be my better self. In return, I try to do the same for them. No matter what I am going through, someone else is going through the same or worse situation. I may not say all of the right things, but I genuinely listen and if warranted or wanted, I try to help. 3. Number 1 and 2 can be combined to define what family means to me. My friends are my family and collectively, seeing the smiles in these people fill my heart and soul more than any amount of money, item, promotion, or award.
When asked to describe yourself, what’s the first word that pops into your mind? Resting Bitch Face… Need I say more? Actually, the word “expressive” comes to mind. I am not sticking myself in a box, but I am 100%, to a T, an expressive. I can be loud, I can be opinionated, I show my emotions and love to talk about them. You definitely know how I feel about a situation based on my facial expression and voice tone. I seek approval, and become curious and a little obsessive when I don’t get it. I like meeting new people and have no problem being the center of attention. After reading my description, I sound like an ass, but I would consider myself to be an outgoing and humorous, ass!
Favorite Book- The Bible. Yes, I read the Bible and also use profanity. Don’t hate! This is the only book that I enjoy reading. I have never been a bid reader, nor have I ever really enjoyed it unless I learned something or could use something from it. You won’t catch me reading outside of work, unless it is the Bible. I have tried to understand what others see in reading books, FOR FUN… I have tried to open my mind and sink into the words and even imagine myself as a character of the story, but I usually end up getting through a couple of pages having no idea or recollection of what I just read. Instead, I have remembered or listed about 275 things I need to do around my house.
What makes your heart race? A good ole’ fashioned crush. I am not often in situations that allow me to meet new people. Well, new people that I had the option of being interested in. If I know that there is a possibility that I will cross paths with that certain handsome fella, I’m done for! I find it to be both exciting and pathetic. Over the past few years, I have grown leaps and bounds with my self-esteem and self-awareness. I have even met some goals that I thought were absolutely unattainable. Even with as much as I have personally grown, don’t count on me to make complete sentences, have less than lobster red skin, or act like a complete fool for a few moments when in the company of a crush.
Organization or cause near to your heart- There are too many to list. Any organization with an intentional purpose of bringing a bit of hope to the lives of others has my applause. Children and animals pull at my heartstrings. I honestly can’t grasp how any “civilization” requires a need for organizations that combat physical and sexual abuse, human trafficking, neglect, and on and on and on… I can’t understand why mental health is not a priority and why this has been at the top of the list for funding cuts while it continues to steal the precious life it has inhabited. I digress.
What keeps you up at night? It depends on the night. Some nights, my mind allows me to get the rest it deserves. Other nights, it may be worry. I worry about things that haven’t happened. I worry if my child is on track with his academic progression, (He’s 4!) I worry about what would happen if something should happen to me. I prep myself for the possibility of losing my closest friend in the world, my Grandma. I worry about my sister and wonder if there is more I can do to help. I worry about my Mom and if she is being honest about the level of pain she experiences every month in ovaries. Then I get pissed about our healthcare system and insurance limits. Then I worry about what kind of world we will live in 10 years from now. If I am not worrying, I am planning or decorating in my head. My sleeplessness has a mind of its own and apparently, possibly multiple personalities.
What is a belief you once held but no longer do? I wish I could say it was Santa. But, I still believe in the magic of Christmas and believe that the spirit of Santa exists within each of us. If only it would last longer than a month… I wouldn’t say that there isn’t anything that I no longer believe, but definitely lost. I lost my innocence, my naive view of the world, my “rose colored glasses”. I lost it through personal experiences, hearing about terrible events while watching the news, interacting with other people, living through moments that will be remembered throughout history. I lost it when I realized that things I have seen, I heard, or I experienced, only suggests that society really hasn’t come that far. I believe there is still good in the world, I believe there are people trying to make a difference and that you can see it every day, but you have to allow it, and you have to look for it. Because, unfortunately GOOD is no longer a headline.
What are you interested in connecting with other women about? Life. I love learning from other women and hearing about how they had overcome life’s obstacles and what steps they took to reach their goals. What goals did they set aside and why? I want to learn how I can impact the lives of others, or how I can help. I find it encouraging to listen to other women tell their stories about juggling a career, parenthood, marriage, and still taking care of themselves through it all.